“For all sad words of tongue and pen, the saddest are these, “It might have been.” John Greenleaf Whittier’s famous quote about regret is just as relevant in 2018 as it was when he originally wrote it in the 19th century. Regret is real and can cripple people mentally if it’s allowed to. There’s nothing you can do to change the past, but starting today you can decide to live the rest of your life without regrets.
What really matters to you? For most people, they will say “family” or “friends,” or maybe even “health”. However, lots of people say this (because it’s perceived as the “right answer”) but very few actually demonstrate the importance of family and friends in their daily life. If family and friends are truly what you value, you should be living it day-to-day. If there’s ever a competition between the things you really value and something else, the thing you value should win.
Don’t Look Back, But Don’t Forget The Lessons
“Don’t look back, you’re not going that way” is good advice. If you’re constantly revisiting the disappointments of the past, you’re not going to be able to fully appreciate the opportunities that may be heading your way in the present. However, you never want to forget the lessons you learned from previous failures. There’s always something to learn from the past, just make sure your focus is on what you’re doing differently after the experience rather than the negative feelings associated with it.
Do Good Whenever You Can
In their last moments, people don’t tend to regret not having a lot of material things. However, they may revisit times when they didn’t treat others as well as they could have. If you’ve been living focused on yourself, there’s always time to change your focus and attitude. Learn to be a good listener, and look for opportunities to help others. You won’t believe how quickly this will improve your life.
My name is Jessica Cox, and I believe that when you live your best possible life and put your faith in God, having regrets becomes impossible. If you’d like me to share my story with the attendees at your convention or religious gathering and help motivate them to start living their best possible lives, feel free to contact me.