The older I get, the more I crave positivity in my life. It’s so easy for people to start thinking the worst about a given situation, and being an adult brings so many opportunities for negativity to start creeping in. A lot of times, it’s a person who allows that negativity into someone’s life, time and time again. If you have some toxic, negative people in your life who you feel are bringing you down, this article is here to give you some real-life tips that can help.
How to Tell When Someone is Toxic
Is there someone in your life who is always complaining or looking for a reason to argue with you and everyone else? Do they suck up all your time, and make you feel like you need to fix all their problems? Or worse, maybe they’re involved with negative habits you want nothing to do with, like drugs, alcohol, or violence. The easiest way to determine whether or not someone is toxic is by removing yourself from contact with them for a couple days, and see if you feel like a more positive person. It sounds harsh, but when you think a person is a toxic, negative person, you’re very likely right. Positive people make you feel good, and conversely, negative people make you feel bad. If someone makes you feel bad a lot, chances are they’re a toxic or negative influence on you.
Create Some Distance, and Pull Away
Once you’ve identified a toxic person, it’s time to remove them from your life. When they text you to complain or ask for something, take a couple days to respond instead of jumping to help them right away. Simply reduce the number of “contacts” you make with them, and it shouldn’t take long for them to move on to someone else to complain to. If you choose to formally tell them you don’t want to pursue a friendship or relationship with them anymore, do so in public and do not let them draw you into a fight. You may feel guilty about needing to do this, but remember: no one’s happiness is more important than yours!
My name is Jessica Cox, and I believe that maintaining a positive attitude is a foolproof way to weather any storm that life throws my way. If you’re interested in allowing me to help the attendees at your convention, meeting, or faith-based gathering discover their hidden strengths and learn to live their best possible life, please call me at 520-505-1359 or contact me on my website.